Accept reality to breathe freedom
We live in a society that limits love to the realm of couple relationships. Who has not thought that without a partner any possibility of love in their life is impossible? The question is: do we know how to love in all its extension and fullness of freedom or do we live in a perpetual and addictive attachment?

Putting an end to it is a complex process because we have to close cycles. If we don't, we will hardly continue with our lives. In addition, it is important to keep in mind that, as in any process of discomfort, we will experience an emotional roller coaster of anger, sadness, fear, anxiety and pain, and a grieving process.

The key? The acceptation. Assuming reality is the support that makes progress and inner growth possible. Because when you accept reality, you free yourself from that uncomfortable emotional clothing and begin to be aware of all your psychological strength and the positive learning that this vast affective situation can leave you.

However, we will not always have the strength to navigate this situation alone. Therefore, in this type of situation it is advisable to attend a specialized professional. This will teach us how to manage emotions and advise us on how to continue with our lives in a healthy way. Of course, let's not forget that it is also important to lean on family and friends.

“What you resist, persists. What you deny submits you, what you accept transforms you.
-C.Jung-

Reprogram your beliefs about love after the breakup
The beliefs that we hold and feed about love and relationships can be decisive when it comes to overcoming a breakup.

Most of us were raised from the perspective of romantic love, the one in which the idea of suffering for love prevails. In fact, it is one of the beliefs that can harm us the most, since if we hold it it seems that being without a partner is a failure, while being with a partner is a complete success. Now, how many couples are still together pretending to be happy?

A breakup acts as a catalyst that drives us to become a better version of ourselves.

The point is that it doesn't do us good to think that being in a relationship is the only right thing or a sacrifice. Because although it has been proven that we all like to feel wanted and loved, it is also possible to be single, separated or divorced and have a full emotional life.

Therefore, perhaps it is time to reset our beliefs about love and relationships. And not only that, but to face our emotions in relation to these issues, especially those that cause us discomfort and suffering.

Accepting the uncomfortable emotions resulting from a breakup has two aspects. On the one hand, it is an emotional challenge due to the resistance to acceptance and denial of the situation; however, on the other hand, once accepted, we begin to follow a path that becomes more transparent and balanced.

"You can't control all the things that happen to you, but you can choose not to let them affect you."
-Maya Angelou-

Guidelines for transformation after a breakup
The transformation process after a breakup is not easy, but it is not impossible either. It is about learning a series of skills to manage emotions, establish an emotional balance and achieve both physical and mental well-being.

Below, we reveal ten keys that will allow you to positively transform your life after a breakup:

Know yourself. The first step to transform ourselves is to know who we are. That is why it is so important to be honest with yourself.
Work your self esteem. Having a healthy self-esteem drives you to do everything you want. The most important love is self-love, therefore: pamper yourself, speak positive to yourself, don't compare yourself…
Develop self-acceptance and self-awareness. Evaluate your belief system, needs, values. It's time to learn new behaviors.
Get out of your comfort zone. Be aware that "if you keep acting the same way, you will get the same results." Open up to change.
Stay active. Do what you have always wanted to do. A trip, a hobby, some sport…
Live in the here and now. Keep in mind that "the past brings us depression and the future anxiety". Don't be in a hurry, savor life.
Think positive.
Give up victimhood. It assumes that no one is guilty or innocent, we are only responsible for our actions. Therefore, keep in mind that in every event there is learning.
Thank you for everything you have lived and learned. Living with grudges from the past has the effect of being unhappy in the present. Gratitude opens doors.
Educate your emotions. Negative emotions are here to stay in your life, make friends with them and find out what they want to tell you.

And you, do you dare to transform yourself?